SO WOMEN CHEAT?:

'' If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15% of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent. So, the biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret". As I read this part of Dr. David Holmes ( a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, United Kingdom) write up on why women cheat, I was motivated to take my research further. I saw another work by Dr. Jonne Lomasky, a United States based psychologist. In fact she made some very solid statement that truly got me thinking, but to tell you the truth, it has never crossed my mind that women(married) could also cheat! Some of her ideas are as follows:

1. Women who do not experience real orgasm during sex may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look else where for good sex. HER ADVICE: Such women should communicate their needs to the husband or, they could seek the help of a sex therapist.

2. Women who have been cheated before feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad and violated and it affects their relationship, mood, behaviour and the ability to trust the man, thus, they want to make such men feel the way they felt. HER ADVICE: The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a problem, communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in the relationship are a much better solution

3. Women deprived of attention, compliments and compassion usually have emotional affairs, which could lead to sex, even though it could start with craving for attention and compassion that has been absent from their marriage.

4. Women who earn their own money, while the husbands earns theirs, may consider leaving an unhappy relationship unlike those who depend on the husband. When a woman has been abused or is being cheated on by her husband, a woman who cannot bear such but has the capacity to pay her bills, could seek comfort, care and attention from other men

I also came across another study by a psychologist, Dr. Bonke Omoteso who said ''some women are nymphomaniac, having abnormally excessive and uncontrollable sexual desire, in which case one man cannot satisfy them, such a woman could cheat on her husband''
Even though it never crossed my mind that married women cheat, I also believe that there is no cause for alarm. I strongly believe that letting Jesus take over the headship of your home could become your biggest marital defence!