MARRIAGE IS NOT HOLLYWOOD

When Hollywood remains your biggest influence, you will wake up at 50 to realise you have been dreaming more than you have been living. Whether you accept it or not, real marriages don't resemble in any way what happens in Hollywood. Marriage is like a barren land, converted to a very beautiful garden by the effort of the gardeners. No matter how beautiful the garden might be, weeds can never be avoided but can only be controlled. Not only will the gardeners invest in weed control, pest is another issue that will also plague the garden. So, the determination of the gardeners to committedly check the activities of weeds and pests is what guarantees the beauty of the garden.
As at today Wednesday according to a report put  together by Family reloaded organisation, more than 30,000 failed marriages were recorded in Badagry area of Lagos State between January and September 2016. I said 30,000 not 300?
Every human being is limited in very many areas of life. Here are my very little tips:

1. Reduce your expectations: Expecting to much from a human being is one recipe for disaster. There will be more things that your spouse will not be able to do compared to those he/she can do. You could expect so much from life and God but not from your spouse because they can only do much

2. Grow yourself: When you make up your mind to grow, many things will not irritate you any more. Your growth will keep you above pettiness in your marriage.

3. Endless teaching practice: Marriage is where you perpetually learn to be a teacher. The beautiful thing about it is that, you become a teacher who continually  is taught how to teach, that is as you teach, you also learn in the process. Your willingness to teach and be taught will help your marriage to be better.

4. The Emotional 1%: You will never ever be able to get the best out of your marriage if you always want to go by how you feel. Doing good in marriage will not always be about feeling good. There are going to be days you will have to do certain good you do not truly feel good about. You will have to apologise when you don't feel like and do many other stuffs you don't feel like.

You must make up your mind to enjoy your marriage. Give your best to your marriage and watch your marriage blossom!