THE CHRONICLE
PART 1:

Till date, he is still regarded as one of the world's greatest iconic rappers even in death. Your heart will literally melt when you hear his ''dear mama'' and ''changes'' lyrics. He redesigned one of the biggest genre of the entertainment industry, which is regarded today as Hip Up. When he reigned in the 90's, big names like Jay-Z and the rest would not come near the stage. He was an unbeatable standard. But in Las Vegas in a drive-by shooting on September 1996, at the very young age of 25, his heart was ripped out by bullets. Maybe by a rival gang who were supposed to have been friends or associates. His name is TUPAC SHAKUR! My desire for you is that, God will not deliver your heart to ravenous birds who pose as friends or associates to be used as a mid night dinner. You are blessed!

                                                     SO WOMEN CHEAT?:

'' If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15% of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent. So, the biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret". As I read this part of Dr. David Holmes ( a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, United Kingdom) write up on why women cheat, I was motivated to take my research further. I saw another work by Dr. Jonne Lomasky, a United States based psychologist. In fact she made some very solid statement that truly got me thinking, but to tell you the truth, it has never crossed my mind that women(married) could also cheat! Some of her ideas are as follows:

1. Women who do not experience real orgasm during sex may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look else where for good sex. HER ADVICE: Such women should communicate their needs to the husband or, they could seek the help of a sex therapist.

2. Women who have been cheated before feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad and violated and it affects their relationship, mood, behaviour and the ability to trust the man, thus, they want to make such men feel the way they felt. HER ADVICE: The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a problem, communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in the relationship are a much better solution

3. Women deprived of attention, compliments and compassion usually have emotional affairs, which could lead to sex, even though it could start with craving for attention and compassion that has been absent from their marriage.

4. Women who earn their own money, while the husbands earns theirs, may consider leaving an unhappy relationship unlike those who depend on the husband. When a woman has been abused or is being cheated on by her husband, a woman who cannot bear such but has the capacity to pay her bills, could seek comfort, care and attention from other men

I also came across another study by a psychologist, Dr. Bonke Omoteso who said ''some women are nymphomaniac, having abnormally excessive and uncontrollable sexual desire, in which case one man cannot satisfy them, such a woman could cheat on her husband''
Even though it never crossed my mind that married women cheat, I also believe that there is no cause for alarm. I strongly believe that letting Jesus take over the headship of your home could become your biggest marital defence!

Just playing with my guitar in my office

                                       HEY, LOVE CAN'T FIX EVERYTHING

This was the very shocking closing remark that ended an article I worked on recently on Time Magazine. It really got me thinking so hard, so I decided to share a few thoughts on this. Any love that blinds you to people's(especially your fiances' or fiancée) irresponsibilities is stupidity. There are going to be times when love should make you walk away from certain persons whose presence in your life is a volcano waiting to explode.

1. Parallel Belief System: Do you think love can fix a guy that does not believe Jesus Christ has anything to offer? If you are dating any girl now who thinks God is one of those things, when you are married, your parlour will certainly become the alter of Baal.

2. Substance Abuser: Anybody that uses substances, alcohol, drugs(marijuana, cocaine etc) is living on mortgaged organs. Love will not stop those substances for coming after his organs in due time. By the time you eventually marry, those organs could even pack up when you need them most

3. Iron Mike Tyson Syndrome: Anybody that is quick with her/his fist, will kill you one day, love not withstanding. So, when you get married to an iron mike Tyson, be rest assured that very soon, your family will certainly come and bury your corpse untimely

4. Night Hawk: You are enjoying all the constant night out now, it's fun, abi? Don't think love will make this person change when you are finally married. You better begin to prepare for very lonely nights with the kids because your kids are always going to fill up his/her gaps

You can never change an adult. If you still want to go ahead to marry, you better begin to pray for grace because you just got yourself A BIG THORN IN THE FLESH!

                                                     MARRIAGE IS NOT HOLLYWOOD

When Hollywood remains your biggest influence, you will wake up at 50 to realise you have been dreaming more than you have been living. Whether you accept it or not, real marriages don't resemble in any way what happens in Hollywood. Marriage is like a barren land, converted to a very beautiful garden by the effort of the gardeners. No matter how beautiful the garden might be, weeds can never be avoided but can only be controlled. Not only will the gardeners invest in weed control, pest is another issue that will also plague the garden. So, the determination of the gardeners to committedly check the activities of weeds and pests is what guarantees the beauty of the garden.
As at today Wednesday according to a report put  together by Family reloaded organisation, more than 30,000 failed marriages were recorded in Badagry area of Lagos State between January and September 2016. I said 30,000 not 300?
Every human being is limited in very many areas of life. Here are my very little tips:

1. Reduce your expectations: Expecting to much from a human being is one recipe for disaster. There will be more things that your spouse will not be able to do compared to those he/she can do. You could expect so much from life and God but not from your spouse because they can only do much

2. Grow yourself: When you make up your mind to grow, many things will not irritate you any more. Your growth will keep you above pettiness in your marriage.

3. Endless teaching practice: Marriage is where you perpetually learn to be a teacher. The beautiful thing about it is that, you become a teacher who continually  is taught how to teach, that is as you teach, you also learn in the process. Your willingness to teach and be taught will help your marriage to be better.

4. The Emotional 1%: You will never ever be able to get the best out of your marriage if you always want to go by how you feel. Doing good in marriage will not always be about feeling good. There are going to be days you will have to do certain good you do not truly feel good about. You will have to apologise when you don't feel like and do many other stuffs you don't feel like.

You must make up your mind to enjoy your marriage. Give your best to your marriage and watch your marriage blossom!

                                                  OSAZUWA'S LAW
                                             

You can run away from Nigeria, anywhere in the world or even from your family, but your believe will certainly find you out. I have often wondered what Murphy was actually thinking when he came out with his very famous law? His law is strong enough to weaken even the most dogged fighter and plant disaster where there is non. It states "Nothing is as easy as it looks; Everything takes longer than you expect; And if anything can go wrong, it will and at the worst possible moment". But here comes my own little twist " Everything is as easy as your believe no matter how tough it looks, with a great expectation and willingness to work at it, great things could happen soon; And you can eventually create very right outcomes in the shortest possible moment". You can begin to challenge all the negative status surrounding your life. You can choose to win big in circumstances where others failed! 

                                                                 40 YEARS AGO
                          
                                               

History never forgets. This is why quality decisions remains the safest route to the future. When your books are opened, what are the things that will be found written therein? Do you think your children will be so proud of the ''Acts'' of their father? 90 minutes before the second U.S presidential debate, four women walked into the press conference, Paula Jones, Kathleen Willey, Kathy Shelton and Juanita Broaddrick. I do not think there will ever be a suitable word to explain how Bill Clinton must have felt seeing all of these women? This was not supposed to be Hillary's pain at all but because her very dear husband made some very bad decisions with these women 40 years ago, it became a very big issue. After this very event, how do you think the environment would look like in the home of the Clintons? What do you think will be going on in the mind of Hillary? May we not make very wrong permanent decisions in temporary circumstances or situations!

                                                       YOUR WILL

A Swedish inventor and scholar Alfred Nobel created the Nobel prize in his 1895 testament, stipulating that his fortune was to be placed in a fund destined to honour those who during the preceding year, shall have conferred the greatest benefit on mankind. And over a hundred and something years after, people all over the earth are still benefitting from his good will. What will your WILL look like when you are gone, especially with the way you are living your life right now? This is the best time to set your house in order if you truly desire your death to be a blessing and not a curse. Hundred of years after, when the name Nobel is mentioned, great things in view. May that also be your story

                                                   COMING FORTH A STAR
                                  

Many people that have become very great today never thought they could amount to anything. For some, greatness for them was only in their imagination, but to tell you the truth, that it's in your imagination is proof it can happen. At a time, an elderly man in the church Sam Adeyemi was attending as a young man called him and said these words to him ''You are a leader'' and gave him a book to read, Sam himself would not have thought he would be leading an organisation that is about 30,000 strong today. He said at a time in his life''I tasted poverty and real hardship, I used to brush my teeth without toothpaste''. But today, he is one of the most sought after Nigerian transformational speakers. Do not undermine yourself or talk down on how far you can go in  life. Keep your dreams alive and do all you can to work them out, do not worry, divine forces will work in your favour.