MY MARRIAGE, MY HELL FIRE!!

Great marriages don't happen by miracles but by a solid willingness to make it better. In as much as people get married almost daily, similarly 'divorces' is also becoming a daily routine. Many marriages have become very huge torment for most people and many are looking for the tiniest of excuses to call it quit.
God has helped me to interact with a lot of couples who thought their marriages were HELL FIRE, to see that it could be better. I am happy because they decided to give their marriage a chance.

There is a limit to which God can go in your marriage:

God will not make love to your husband or
wife, neither will He come and cook the meals. When couples are not too willing to learn the art of sex or cooking, then you should expect another hell fire in your home. Great sex is a very vital tool to intimacy. Please learn how to get it done very well, both the man and woman. When physicality is broken, your marriage is at risk. Anointing will never take the place of a very great sex life, plan it and make it enriching. Do not always let it happen by chance all the time. Even those quickies could be done creatively.

Talk about everything that appear like a threat:

You must never be too reserved to talk to your spouse. Talk about your sex life, health, finance, children, fears. In fact, just talk about your doubts, fears. Never you bottle them up. Your marriage is worth all your creative efforts. If the sex was not great tonight, talk about how it could be better, if the food didn't come out well, speak on how it could be better. Just talk.

The place of your spouse:

You have to watch it anytime your spouse is substituted. You cannot marry your mother, sports, job. No other person should take the place of your spouse. Run home to be with your spouse. Nobody has it all together.

A bunch of dirty things:

Forget all those facades you saw when you were dating, nobody is as clean as they appear, in fact anybody that appears too clean could have a lot of dirt in his/her closet. Your marriage becomes your hell fire when you don't prepare your heart for these. The woman might be very lazy with chores but good in business. The man might be poor financially but very supportive. Every human being carries a lot of dirty things into marriage that might go away with time. Some never goes. Some you will endure, while some you will enjoy. Make up your mind, you will enjoy and endure as instance demands

A time to grow or go:

There are certain things you grow through or must go through. But there are other times you just have to call it quit. Even though I will never encourage divorce, the decision is up to you. If every time he beats you up at the slightest provocation and it lands you in the hospital, you sure have a decision to make? If after he raped the house girl, got her pregnant and then deny it blatantly but orders a very dangerous abortion even though she was eight months gone. then you should know when enough is enough?

Above all, you should know when it is God's fault, your fault or the devil's fault. If is God's fault, just wait on God. If it is your fault, work on it but if it is the devil's fault, it is time to fight for your marriage and team up with God to send the devil back to hell. Your marriage will not fail.